Although this comes from ancient times, it is actually based upon very sophisticated modern psychological principles. This was adapted by Morrnah to modern times. Ho’oponopono is a process of forgiveness, release and reconciliation. Within this tradition, there is an acknowledgement that we all possess an inner Father, Mother and Child. Most every parent does their very best to nurture, raise and prepare their child for life. So many people are emotionally wounded. In other words, if we do not have an ideal relationship with our father or mother, it can create great problems for us that manifest in any number of ways; physically, mentally, emotionally and in terms of behavior. To add to the mix, we have a relationship with ourselves, of which the inner child plays an important role. When I first hear of the concept of an “inner child”, I dismissed it as some sort of New Aged mumbo-jumbo. After having worked with hundreds of people using this process, I know it is very real.
Ho’oponopono is a means to bring real balance and healing to the inner Father, Mother and Child. So if you have a less than an ideal relationship with either or both of your parents, or yourself, this can go a long way in restoring a healthy inner life. I have seen so many examples of this also changing for good the interactions between people.
Here is the statement. Do not dismiss it because of its apparent simplicity. There is a reason his has survived for so long:
Please forgive me.
I love you.”
The way this is used is to repeat it over and over many times, focusing on a specific situation, relationship or other part of your life. The practice is often called, “cleansing” or “clearing”. You can apply this to literally any area of your life. It is most effective when applied to one area at a time until significant change has been observed.
Before you being to use it, let me break the phrase down so you have an understanding of what you are actually saying:
“I’m sorry.” You are not blaming yourself or anyone else for anything. You are simply acknowledging something to the effect that you accept responsibility any part you might have played in a situation or relationship. There is no blame or guilt involved in this. It is more of an awareness that you were one part of something that happened.
“Please forgive me.” You may have done absolutely nothing wrong. In fact, you might be the one who was hurt or harmed. What you are actually saying is, “I am willing to let this go so it can no longer hurt me or hold me back.” It is as if you are saying this to one or more of your inner Father, Mother or Child.
“Thank you.” You are blessing the other person or situation and letting them go. In doing this you are freeing yourself to move onward to a place of greater balance and peace.
“I love you.” In a sense, you are stating, “I am free, you are free. We can go our separate ways now, no longer bound to each other in an unhealthy way.”
You will not be reciting this to anyone else. Most of the time, I do this silently. You are not confronting anyone at any time. This is all work that is done in privacy.
Let’s look at an example. I had a client who was going through a very messy divorce. There was great animosity between her and her soon-to-be ex-husband. They were unable to carry on any civil discussion either in person or by phone. This stalled them from being able to successfully negotiate any terms of settlement in their divorce. My client came to me in tears, desperate for a solution. I taught her this process. She began doing this for many weeks, reciting the clearing statement every day, many, many times each day. In about three weeks time, her husband called her, ready to have a calm discussion. They were able to calmly work out an agreement that was fair to each of them. They went to legal council to complete the process. It was a done in short order, with each of them happy with the outcome. Could this have happened without using Ho’oponopono? Of course. But I have seen this work firsthand far too many times to dismiss its importance and value.
How do I use Ho’oponopono?
Think of a situation or relationship that you are having some trouble with. Get in touch with how you are feeling about this situation. Is there tension in your body? Does it give you added stress or physical pain or anxiety? Feel this honestly and fully. Next, begin saying the clearing statement, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” You will repeat this silently, saying it to yourself, to anyone or anything else involved. If there is property or possessions involved, you will also direct your attention to it while saying this statement. You will silently direct this statement toward every single aspect of it, one thing at a time. If this is a serious problem, you may very well find that you have to say this statement for a few hours each day at the very beginning. Don’t worry though, you won’t have to do so forever.
How do I know when I’m done?
As you focus on the feeling surrounding a given scenario, you will begin to feel the energy behind it going from tense and anxiety producing to calm and light. Once you are able to do this, you know you’re finished, at least for now. You might have to resume the practice a bit later. Eventually, however, things will settle down and you will see transformation.
Here are just some examples of how Ho’oponopono can be applied to various situations or relationships:
1. When applying for a new job.
2. When going through a rough time in a marriage or other relationship.
3. When looking to get out of debt.
4. When working on a health issue. (Note: This is not intended to be a substitute for proper medical care by a qualified medical professional.)
5. When seeking a significant relationship.
6. Just about anything else you can think of.
Note: One should not do this on someone else’s behalf. You can teach this to someone else, but it is only right to do this for yourself. Work only on those situations in which you are directly involved. You are also only working on your part of a relationship. You cannot do this to effect someone else’s behavior or actions. Just do this for your part of the plan and all will work out.
I would love to hear of your successes with this tradition.
Wishing you a happy and fulfilled life,
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