Giving is free and time is not money

crisisheaderIn my review of my journey with Dr Deepak Chopra, ‘Crisis, What crisis?’ I have found it weird in what and how I have changed in the interim period but also, and maybe more disturbingly, what has not.

The introduction to Law 2, Giving is a perfect example of this. I have changed so MY world has changed but I think you will agree that for the vast majority of us, it has not got ‘better’. This is of course a subjective evaluation and, as such, a completely unique and personal one. Whether you have more income or less, more time or less more ‘life’ or less is absolutely 100% up to you. It is absolutely down to you to evaluate and experience the world as you create it.

This said, Law 2 is universal. It is timeless. It is ethical, powerful and fulfilling. It is ‘Giving’.

Day 48 Giving is free and time is not money
This Law is easy. In fact, not only is it easy but it is simple. I am aware of my not fully ‘completing’ Law 1. I have grasped the concepts and principles of pure potentiality, I have intellectualised them so to speak yet I am aware that I have not mastered the principle. I proceed on the basis of continuous improvement – to coin an over-used corporate business phrase – and will not, unusually for me, let my partial incompletion of the 1st stage prevent my attempts to progress onto the next. My ego and tendency to minor OCD (the curtain pleats are NOT all even and one of my socks is slightly higher up my shin than the other!) are being managed and I move on full and open-heartedly into Law 2 – Giving. Maybe I will return here to review Law 1 at a later date; let’s see how far I get first.
And it’s easy. We are ALL capable of giving something, unfortunately in today’s World of recession, bankers bonuses, the Lottery and more charities than a man can shake a stick at, (and I am a self-confessed stick-shaker!!) we tend to evaluate our giving quotient in terms of money. Not only is this harmful to our society as a whole because we seem to be all too focused on ‘the price of something’ and have forgotten ‘the value of anything’ but also because it limits our consciousness to a belief structure that only measures giving in terms of charity tins, TV appeals and door-to-door collections of our unwanted cardigans. This is patently ridiculous. We can give in so many ways that cost us nothing. Dr Chopra advises giving something to everyone we meet; give them anything you can but be sure to give them something. He accepts that money-based giving is an element of this but it is not the only way to give.

I am not a preacher and not a role model so my words are meant solely for your consideration; all I ask is that you DO give these some consideration and you are already trying to be on the positive side of the give-take equation. Just because it costs nothing does not mean it has no value so I will suggest a couple of giving options in each of my next journal entries to see if any inspire you to give a little bit yourself, even a little bit of yourself.

Give some time. I know, I know, we have no time to give. With the kids, job, car, housework, family etc, we have no time and, lest we forget, time is money. Well let me attempt to shatter both of those illusions. Firstly, even if we accept the tenet that time is money, and there is some merit in the simplicity of the phrase, this does not mean that every minute costs us money. Far from it. If you actually sat down and wrote down what DOES make or save you money each day and what is, in contrast, unproductive time, then I assure you that you have more wasted time than productive time. Do a check and see for yourself. Secondly, in all of that wasted time above, what better way to spend 60 seconds than to make someone else happier? How? Well, give them something!

Give some praise. Make a positive comment. Offer some direct feedback at work to someone that is taken for granted. Give some support, some direction or advice to someone without your experience or skills. Give some recognition to a friend or colleague. Give thanks to someone who has helped you.
All of the above, and there are ger-zillions of other positive gestures and acknowledgments, will cost you nothing (except maybe your inflated sense of ego) and take less than a minute or two. Are you actually so badly organised, introspective, self-centred or threatened that you do not know of someone that would benefit from your gift? I think not, so go on, give a positive comment and watch the world smile back. Oh, and if all else is too expensive for you (by the way Gordon Gecko was fictional), then just give a smile. That’s free!
Start giving and smile

I submit the records of my journey unedited. I can see where I was and where I am now. You of course do not have such direct access to the data in order to be able to assess this for yourself. There is no need for you to do this really; what would it actually achieve for you? I do hope, however, that throughout this series of excerpts that something triggers thoughts and feelings within your world and maybe even helps you to re-frame some of the values, experiences and issues which you, or a friend, may too have experienced or questioned.


philforambassadorsThis article is an excerpt from my attempt to follow the works of Dr Deepak Chopra; the world renowned guru on many mind and wellbeing therapies.

I decided that if I was going to make a reasonable and rational decision on the efficacy of such teachings then I would have to live them. In fact, this I believe is the only way to ‘test’ such theories. Since my ‘journey’ with the good Dr and his ‘Seven Spiritual Laws of Success’ I have had this approach reinforced and re-iterated; the ONLY way to truly know about something is to experience it.

We can read, listen, watch etc and in fact engage all of our wonderful physical senses (VAKOG – visual, auditory, kinetic, olfactory, gustatory) from a semi-detached perspective but it is the experience of something, the doing of it, that totally embeds it into our physiology and mind.

So that’s what I did. Over a period of about 14 months I lived and breathed Dr Chopra’s laws.
The result? Well, you will have to read the book but I will be including similar excerpts, written as diary posts, over the coming months for the 3rdi magazine. I hope that you enjoy, or at least engage with it.

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