The alternative diva new year message – dump goals!

Jane KenyonI am one of those ‘impatient to be moving on people’ that is stripping the house of all things sparkly and festive on News Year’s Day or before. I have done Christmas, I have over-indulged, spent too much money, sat around for too long, depleted my family energy bank and developed square eyes and to be honest, I just want to get moving and start the next chapter!

This year has been particularly challenging as I dislocated my shoulder in a bad fall on 9th December and have been strapped up and in and out of hospital ever since. I have directed all festive activities from my sofa and am well and truly fed up! But back to my 2014 message…

I believe that we own nothing in this life but our story. Property comes and goes, so does business, people, money and possessions but our story is ours for keeps and we are 100% responsible for whether it becomes a best seller or not.

I refuse to get sucked in to the New Year Resolution hype as being goal driven and having a life plan is fundamental for me and neither are created once a year in early January, when the world is still asleep and most people are jaded, broke, uncertain of anything and miserable!

However, I am partial to a bit of reflection, something I feel we need to do more of so I ask myself three questions about the year past and I challenge you to do the same.

Did I love?
Did I Live?
Did I matter?

Did I love? Did I open my heart to those that matter? Did I give people the benefit of the doubt even if they did not deserve it? Did I try not to judge people, did I stay in a state of gratitude, did I give to others less fortunate than I, did I accept my emotional self and embrace my vulnerability?

If you asked people if they could live their life again, having less regrets, this would feature in their top three every time. This leads us to question two, Did I live? Did I step beyond my comfort zone and feel some fear, or did I simply stay safe and cruise along? Did I challenge myself, did I take any risks, did I have to manage failure as a result of this, did I learn and grow and add some amazing chapters to my story? Life begins at the end of your comfort zone, anything less is mediocre and if you are not failing you are NOT living!

And finally, Did I matter? What I mean here is, did I make a difference, would anyone know I was here? Did I leave any footprints anywhere, at all in 12 months? Did I help anyone? Influence anyone or anything? Did I change a life? A law? A relationship? A business? A community? A story? Did I improve something or someone? Am I living in my passion with passion? Buddha says ‘Your job here, is to discover your job, then dedicate your life to it.’ So how ‘s that working for you? What are you dedicating your life to?

If you make one New Year’s Resolution this year and I know you will…… accept the challenge to discover your passion, life is too short to waste your time and energy on anything less that what you came here to do. If you have no idea what this is and well over 80% of the working population do not, invest in you and get off the roller coaster, called life, for as many hours as it takes to do some soul searching to find out! Read some books, get a coach, sign up for my Stepping Up weekend workshop, find a mentor, start your journey of self discovery, it is so worth it and so are you!

May 2014 be the year you harness your courage, live your truth and step up and shine. We are all meant to shine.

Now, I am off to pack away the tree and sparkly stuff for another year and re-do my mantra jar!

Jane Kenyon is a regular contributor to the3rdimagazine.

2 Comments on The alternative diva new year message – dump goals!

  1. karen birch // January 6, 2014 at 5:07 pm // Reply

    Fantastic Jane – the perfect antidote to new years resolution procrastination! Don’t make demands on yourself that you cannot meet. Just be sure you can ask yourself three simple questions and be comfortable with your answers. Did I Love, Did I Live, Did I Matter? Genius! I confess I could look myself in the eye and answer yes to any of the questions but will now keep them as watchwords for 2014.

  2. Great article Jane, thanks for this. I think that it has given us all something to consider and hold onto.

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