Dawn Thomson is an NLP practitioner and EFT Master. She helps her clients let go of limitations and achieve their goals, and has a particular interest in helping people discover and embrace their authentic selves in their personal or working lives. Born and brought up in North-West London, she has lived in Edinburgh for over 20 years and is married with two daughters.
First of all, can I just say: I love being a woman, and I like nothing better than allowing myself to be a woman and allowing men to be men. Nearly every attribute that has been considered that of the weaker sex I have not only displayed, but revelled in – except, perhaps, passivity! I’ve always thought that to be a woman was to be powerful. And it is this love, and respect, of feminine power that makes me so excited about what may develop in the years to come, and the part I as a woman will play it.
I’m also really interested in astrology, and how what happens in the skies plays out on earth. You may not join me in my interest, but few can doubt that the patriarchal, illusory, enslaving ways of the past 200 years (the Age of Pisces, for the non-astrological types amongst you) are crumbling and are making way for a new, more enlightened, more loving and collaborative way of being – the start of the Age of Aquarius, and, with it, the rise of what is being called The Divine Feminine. The (largely masculine) house of cards that we have called society over the past 200 years, which mainly dealt with hierarchy, ownership and ego (superiority v inferiority), had been built lopsided because women were sidelined and dis-empowered. Thankfully, it has finally started to fall in on itself, as we can see with examples such as the collapse of the banking system and the fury at the widening income gap. The pendulum is swinging back to a more feminine approach in order to restore balance.
One of the key ways I think the Divine Feminine will be seen working is in lack of ego. I am a therapist, and it is fundamental that I keep my ego out of any work I do with clients, and only work with their individual map of the world. I believe this is an inherently feminine way to be, and to operate. By working as facilitator rather than dictator, knowing that your client has all the answers within, gives them space for exploration, expression and growth. It allows them to see their own power rather than foisting my assumptions of what is right onto them. Lack of ego also goes hand-in-hand with respecting difference. I see this being played out in society more and more, and welcome it – from people’s reactions to the Bedroom Tax, to Russia’s anti-homosexuality laws, to big corporations playing for cash rather than working with the planet’s natural resources – and even better, the determination to now do something about it.
The Dalai Lama said at the 2009 Peace Summit that ‘the world will be saved by the Western woman’. That means you, and it means me – women who are no longer shackled by an outmoded, patriarchal way of thinking and being; women who are financially independent, women who are educated and free to make positive choices. It means women who are strong enough in their sense of self that they truly want to make a difference in their lives, in the lives of others, in the destiny of the planet. This doesn’t mean that men don’t have a vital role to play in this; it simply means that it is time for our feminine attributes, for so long condemned as soft, mysterious or irrational, to now come to the fore. The hierarchical Ego has created division, fear, and slavery to money and objects. I believe the lead will now be taken by nurturing and empowering on a more individual basis, just as a mother would do with her child.
Self-acceptance is a cornerstone of strong feminine energy. My mother once told me ‘Love is acceptance’, and this stayed with me as I grew up, trying to navigate my way safely through all the dis-empowering beliefs that were thrown at me along the way: ‘Good girls don’t’; ‘black people will never get anywhere’; ‘just rise above it’; ‘you’ll never get anywhere, you’re too nice’. As I have grown older, got married, and had two daughters of my own, it’s been important for me to allow myself to be the person I truly am, in all my brilliance and in all my flaws. You only need to look at my Facebook page to see the contradictory parts of my personality. My likes include this great e-magazine, the 3rdi, as well as Upworthy, Think Progress, and Give A Shit About Nature, but every Thursday a friend of mine posts a rather gorgeous hunky guy on my wall, which I love. A few of my friends, male and female, complained about it, crying objectification and sexism. I have to admit, I agonised over it for a while, but then I gave up. I care deeply about issues affecting ordinary people and the environment, and I love hot men. It’s just who I am. Seeing ourselves – and our situations, whether they’re personal or on a global scale – clear-sightedly and without judgement is key to making resourceful choices. Only then can we really begin to make positive change that will last. If you truly care about yourself, it’s difficult not to care about others.
It’s time for us to own and be proud of our feminine power: to live and work with others from our unique feminine blueprint, and be unafraid to eschew the more masculine ways of being. In my work and my personal life I nurture, I empower, I collaborate, I develop. As women we love fiercely, and that love can be revolutionary in its power. Our female characteristics need to be brought forward onto the world stage until we are all co-existing in a symbiotic and positive framework for the good of mankind and the environment. What I think is wonderful about this time of our lives is that right now we are just at the start – we can be the pioneers shaping this grand new landscape. Of course, there will be teething problems – the anti-gun lobby and ObamaCare are experiencing this in the US, for example, and in the UK our benefits system and income inequality really frightens me. All of that notwithstanding, though, I’m excited to be the woman I am today at this pivotal stage in our global development. I’m wise enough, young enough, experienced enough and have enough energy to really embrace the Dalai Lama’s statement, work with the feminine energies and make our society and world a better place to inhabit. I’m also old enough to know I don’t have forever to do it, so I mustn’t sit on my laurels. My time is now. And so, beautiful Woman, is yours.