With all the constant bad news about the economy, many people are feeling scared about making any changes in their lives. They are holding back until things get ‘back to normal’.
When I speak to women who want to change their lives, even in this economy, or those who have been made redundant, the one common denominator is that no time is a ‘right’ time. The right time is when it is a right time for you. Our global challenge right now is to live with this uncertainty and still move forward with our lives. Interestingly I believe that this is how we will come out the other side and create our world in a better way.
It’s important to remember that ‘normal’ won’t be the normal that we used to know and I mean this on individual level, not just a global one.
We cannot go through such a huge shakeup as we have in past few years without things changing forever. And that’s not a bad thing. Old habits that really don’t serve us are being questioned simply because our economy is changing. The old guarantees are no longer in place and success comes to the courageous, who are going out there and making it happen anyway.
I regularly remind my clients that life is not a rehearsal. Time can slip by so quickly and for a while you can ignore that nagging feeling that what you have created, the life you are living, does not make you happy. However there may come a moment when you know that there is more. That although you have been there, done that and got the t-shirt, it no longer feels like the right one.
Ten years ago when we were in the boom time it was easier to acknowledge that frustration and do something about it. Nowadays, with all the doom and gloom constantly battering our eardrums, it is harder to justify rocking the boat.
But rocking the boat is what you need to do if you are one of these women who is sitting there wishing you were living a different life. Why? Because rocking the boat creates waves and waves are movement that can begin to change the shape of your personal landscape. It is easier to make changes once you have begun to move, the law of momentum proves this, and it is true as much in our personal lives as it is for a huge tanker.
Getting the life you want is not about throwing the baby out with the bathwater, it does not mean you have to leave behind everything you have worked so hard for. It is often that thought that is scaring people into inaction. Rather, it is about discovering what makes your heart sing and how you can begin to recreate your life following your passion whilst taking care of your responsibilities.
So why is now the right time to do that? It is the right time if you are at a place in your life where you feel the frustration about what you are living. It is the right time if you have that feeling of desolation that you are stuck living it forever. We are gifted moments of opportunity in our lives when we feel the drive and simply know that we can change. Often help becomes apparent at that time too. It is at that point that you can remind yourself just how resourceful you are, and have been in the past, and that when you are truly passionate about something that passion will drive you forward and give you all kinds of solutions to challenges that may come your way.
Is now the right time for you to go out and get your right t-shirt? Don’t let this ‘global crisis’ be the thing that stops you. The word crisis comes from two words in ancient Greek one meaning “a separating, power of distinguishing, decision, choice, election, judgment”, and the other meaning, “pick out, choose, decide, judge”. A crisis is a time of opportunity; a time to make new decisions and choose a different way of living.
We are no longer living in the time of guarantees. Life is for living fully every day, not just when things are ‘good’. We can create that ‘good’ by ensuring that right now is the moment that you start to love your life.
So if you are feeling that now is your ‘right time’ then here are some tips to start the waves rolling and gain momentum:
1. Give yourself permission to take this time to explore your options. Make a commitment to yourself that you won’t let this slide, that you will make today the day that you started to get the life you want.
2. It’s the inner feeling that makes us happy, not the outer stuff. So, take stock of your life, we often have things we think we have to have or do because of the career we have had. So look at the things you think you have to have in your life and ask yourself, would I need that if I didn’t have the life I have right now?
3. Write a list: what do you love about your life? What could you never do again and not miss it? What do you want more of?
4. Is there is something that you’ve always thought that you’d like to do but never really tried? Research it, you can’t make a decision about something until you have the full picture. And there is no risk in doing the research!
5. Enrol an accountability buddy, someone who will keep you going even if you flag, a real cheerleader.
By following these tips and making the decision when the time is right for you, you can change your life regardless of the ‘global crisis’. Good luck!
Jessica McGregor Johnson is author of “The Right T-Shirt; Write Your Own Rules and Live the Life you Want”. Jessica has been there, done that and got the wrong T-Shirt so has walked the path she now writes about and for the past nine years has worked internationally as a coach empowering women to go out and live the life they choose. Find out more about her books, coaching programmes and retreats at www.jessicamcgregorjohnson.com