Change – as good as a rest, really?!

karen_finlaysonFor the past year I’ve begun the morning in a French café, enjoying the aroma of freshly baked pains aux chocolat while sipping a double shot latte. The owner gets up in the dead of night to create the most delicious croissants and breads, which allows me to get there early in the morning pretending that I’m Juliette Binoche as I organise the day ahead.

This change in my routine has helped me to get organised earlier and become more productive in my business. The change initially felt very self-indulgent but is now a vital part of my day. It still feels like a luxury but it also motivates me to get the tedious tasks done quickly and is easily incorporated into the rest of my day.

But not all change is so easily accepted. Changes in relationships are often painful transitions; a downturn in the economic climate can dictate changes that are devastating to our personal lives. In my work I facilitate physical change. Women and men who have previously considered themselves as less influential or less important begin to recognise different aspects of their character, they start to value personal qualities that they had previously dismissed. Using different colours or styles of clothes can convey a new attitude or bring attention to different physical traits.

Do I facilitate physical change? No. I simply help people to see themselves in a different way and I have found that so often change is a case of adjusting our perceptions:

“My morning is so busy, it takes a long time to get organised.” Could I manage to get it sorted quicker if a delicious coffee awaited me. Of course!

“I’ve always been overweight, my mum referred to me as the chunky one.” Could it be that my hips are wider but my waist is tiny and my flat-chested mum was jealous of my fabulous bust? Yes I see it now and I’ll enjoy wearing styles that emphasise my wonderful waist.

“I think that I’m capable of leading a team to work cohesively while increasing output, but I’ve been told I’m not suitable.” By wearing a greater contrast of sharper colours I see an edgier side to myself and can convey my leadership qualities to colleagues.

The above examples are all real-life experiences that have happy endings. In my experience change is not a restful process but if it happens for the right reasons it is often worth the pain. Change can be unsettling because we have to examine what has led us to perceive a situation or ourselves, as we currently do. But the results achieved by going through the process of change often lead us to become far happier and fulfilled people.





Karen Finlayson is a regular contributor to the3rdimagazine.

6 Comments on Change – as good as a rest, really?!

  1. I want to make a change Karen; I want to start my morning like yours:().

  2. What a lovely way to start your day! There is definitely a lot to be said for taking the time to sort out your mindset at the beginning of the day – and for treating yourself in the process!

    • KAREN FINLAYSON // February 5, 2013 at 4:31 pm // Reply

      Thanks for your comment Kim. I do find that if I’m kind to myself at the beginning of the day I am more likely to be kind to others throughout the remainder!

  3. Your article has led me to think that we often look for change in the wrong places. We often look to change things, our job, partner, where we live; when a small change to the way we think about ourselves may be all that is needed. Granted, you help people to make physical changes to their appearance but it is those changes that allow them to think and feel differently about themselves. And in my experience, if you think differently you’ll act differently.

    • Absolutely Karen! So often we’re stuck in a certain perspective and when someone helps see a situation, or ourselves, in a different light we’re “enlightened” and able to progress. Thanks for your comments : )

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