Dreamers vs DreamMakers
We all know many people with a dream. But how many of those dreamers actually turn their dreams into reality? You could say that the difference between dreamers and entrepreneurs is that the entrepreneur takes action aligned to the dream and thus becomes a DreamMaker.
Too many people keep their ideas in their own heads. Or talk about their ideas to others, but all it is is hot air. It saddens me to think of so many ideas unbirthed. They exist only as trapped ideas in the human mind, or in the field of possibilities and potentials.
Taking Bold Aligned Action
In my work as a Success Mentor I see a simple difference between success and a lack of success. The difference I see is those who take bold aligned action, and those who think about it, talk about it, but don’t actually do it.
We’re on planet earth to earth our ideas, to make them real, to act upon them, to create new realities. Not just to think about them.
It was Tom Peter’s who wisely and wittily said: ‘There are some people who make it happen, some people who watch it happen, and some who say ‘What the f**k happened!’ So true, so true, so true! And in the meantime, an idea ripe for its time, somehow misses it’s due-date, over-ripens in the head of its creator, and rots. What a waste!
As you think now of all the successful people you know, you know they have several things in common despite their differences:
* They turn dreams into reality
* They have self-belief
* They are committed
* They have a longer time-line and see further into the future of possibilities
* They are persistent and determined
* They spot the gap, they see opportunity
* They don’t wait for perfection
* They can delay gratification
The latter is significant. In a psychological experiment, children were sat in front of a plate of sweeties. The experimenter told them he had to leave for 10 minutes and they mustn’t touch the sweets, and that if they didn’t he would give them twice as many sweets on his return as a reward for not touching them. In follow-up studies, those children who could delay gratification had been the most successful in life and business/career.
Distraction & Resistance
I’m always amazed at the number of ways a person can distract themselves from what truly matters. People can create great chaos around themselves in order to stop themselves creating and achieving what they know they’re here to do. It’s all resistance. And some people have expert strategies in resistance! And consequently they tend to stay stuck. They’re in their own way.
They are out of alignment, have fragmented scattered energy that lacks coherence, and have fragmented incoherent actions. And thus little happens in the right direction.
The Choices You Make
‘In the end it is our choices that define us’ says Dumbledore to Harry Potter. So true, so true, so true! But it isn’t just about being driven – I know lots of miserable millionaires! Indeed you could say that the pursuit of money almost always means that a person has taken their eye off what they really want. When people take aligned action in the direction of what they really want, the money usually flows as a result.
Taking Imperfect Action
Too many people wait for something to be perfect before they move it forward and in such ways they sabotage themselves and kill off their dreams. Perfection probably isn’t possible. All of the entrepreneurs I know and have read about have one thing in common – they take imperfect action and course correct as they go. What about you? And as they do, they hold their dream in mind, and it pulls them forward, galvanizing their energy and actions in the right direction.
One of My Mentors
One of my mentors in my youth was a fabulous fellow called Matt Walsh. He was actually my dad’s cousin, but was a lot older than my dad. When I was learning karate as a young girl, Matt would come and do some training with me on a Friday night. I was a dedicated student … mainly because I had a big crush on the karate instructor! One of the things Matt used to say to me was ‘What’s your dream?’ and he used to tell me to ‘Keep the dream, have faith in the dream.’
I have remembered that all of my life. In his younger days Matt worked for a then 4th Division football team, Workington Reds. He was the physio, coach, and played the fiddle and the piano on social evenings. There wasn’t the money in football then as there is now. Ginny, Matt’s wife, was expecting their second baby. Matt thought it was about time he got a ‘proper’ job. He took a job down Haig Pit, our community was a mining community. Not far into his work down the pit, a bogey full of coal broke loose and took off one of Matt’s legs. He was a long time in hospital and around 2 years in rehabilitation. But he wasn’t bitter and never moaned. He just learned to play the cards life had dealt him, and for that he was an inspiration to many. He learned wood carving and made lots of things for people, always sociable and good company, he lived a good life.
One of the people he worked with at Workington Reds was a man you may have heard of. His name was Bill Shankly. Now you could say that Bill Shankly kept his dream. He kept faith in his dream. And he went on to become the manager of Liverpool Football Club, and one of the country’s best loved managers of all time. Bill, ever a good man, used to visit Matt regularly, along with his wife, at Matt’s little miner’s cottage overlooking Saltom Bay and the Solway Firth at Kells in Whitehaven (used to be known as the land of the 3 kingdoms as we can see Scotland, England, and the Isle of Man). Bill died a long time before Matt. Bill lived his dream, acted in the direction of his dream.
And So It Is With You
And so with you. You have your dream. What if you are almost there. What if it takes just a tweak. What if it takes just another idea, a different way of doing things. Sometimes life gives you those 11th hour moments. Sometimes you turn back in the dark just before the dawn breaks. Harrison Ford said he worked with a lot of very talented actors on his jobbing days, better actors than himself he said. But they gave up. And he didn’t. Look at the difference.
Robert Frost wrote this glorious poem, I love it – have a little read:
The Road Not Taken
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
I can comfortably say that by the very fact that you are reading this now, means you are taking the road less travelled by. That was your choice, your dream.
Have you seen that film ‘Sliding Doors’ with Gwynneth Paltrow? One reality closes, one opens. Our life is about the choices we make. Sometimes we get those 11th hour moments in business, and in life. The choices made at those pivotal moments do indeed shape our lives.
What if this time right here, right now, is one of your pivotal moments? What if a door is sliding open to even greater success, to being even more outstanding, or to living a life more ordinary. How can you take the learnings from this piece of writing, written with you in mind, and move it forward in the right way, in your life, your one wild and precious life, and make it work for you for the rest of your life.
All the great entrepreneurs were once exactly where you were. Then they got committed to that dream, they took aligned imperfect action, and providence and the universe conspired to support them.
Whatever you decide, keep the faith in yourself, in your dream, in this life, and in the life you want to live – and ACT on it! Be bold, be fearless, and LEAP!
Until next time